Sexuality is a rich, interesting area to work with because it’s not just something we do, it’s also “who we are,” “what we have gone through” and a source of information about “how we feel.” Taking a curious, non-pathological exploration into these three areas of sexuality can be very empowering.
I do not advertise myself as a LBGTQI, sex positive therapist, even though I am one. It’s never occurred to me, not once in my whole life, to not accept all types of loving relationships as valid, real and important. I have worked with many diverse types of same sex and heterosexual couples and continue to be open to do so.
The only discriminator/differentiator I do have is that I’m biased towards working with monogamy as the long term goal for couples who decide to commit. Not because I think this the only way to go, and it’s not a moral issue. Deep intimacy built over time within the constraints of monogamy is my own dominant attachment style, so I don’t want to bias someone else that is more drawn towards open relationships. I have done some work with polyamorous couples that has been productive, but I tend to recommend other therapists if couples really want guidance in this area.
I am highly interested and like working with people to help them discover who they really are. Who they are professionally, personally, socially and sexually. Exploring one’s sexual orientation is an important way for people to get to know their self and what questions are important, such as:
I love working with people as they struggle with forming and answering their own important questions. It’s an honor to help people explore and settle with answers that help them move forward with a sense of peace about their self and a feeling of competence in their future sexual relationships.